FB = FML?

I think I'm on facebook too much. I probably check it 5-10 times a day during the week. Mostly to see what my friends are doing, check out links and creep on pictures (everyone does this, don't lie). That's what facebook is about. There alot of great things FB does that make my life easier. Yesterday my good friend got engaged after dating her guy for a VERY long time. She called her mom, then updated her status. How easy was that? One status update and everyone knows. That's the good stuff.

The bad stuff. In that same FB session I found out some other information I probably didn't need to see. I was going through Halloween pictures and saw my ex and his new guy in matching sailor costumes. Now, I already sort of knew about his new guy but I didn't really need to see them making out in their super gay matching costumes. As I don't particularly enjoy my stalker tendencies when they come out, I stopped myself from looking any further.

Do I need to check FB multiple times every day, is my life REALLY better for having FB in my life? Am I the only one having this issue?

PS - Would you ever wear a matching sailor costume with your new boyfriend?

(Answer - Hell no.)

The Ex...

What do you call someone that you had a long term relationship with, ended things and now you're good friends?

I tend to default to calling him, 'the ex.' But I feel that term has such negative connotations about it.

You know, you're hanging with your friends, somebody walks passed and you kinda half wave at them and then hiss. Your friends are surprised at your immature behaviour and ask 'who was that?' You sneer back, 'the ex.' And everybody just gives the understanding nod. ;)

How often do we see on television ex's that get along, support each other, etc?? Not that often from what I recall.

This last week, I was able to support my ex through a difficult situation, hug him, cuddle nap with him, and it was all platonic. I had fears that it would segue into something that we'd both regret, but it never did. It was just 2 friends being there for one another.

It let me know that we are officially done, done, done and that there's no going back to what we were before. He's in a serious relationship with somebody new and that has to be okay with me.

But I need a term for him. I don't like the ex, as previously explained. I don't like 'good friend', as it doesn't spell out the bond that we have with one another. 'Friend who used to be my lover' is accurate, but a bit long.

What would you call this person?

Seeing the ex, what do you do?

This is more of a question than a post, but I'll flesh it out a bit.

I ran into the ex for the first time, since we broke up last nite at a club. It's crazy how quickly time flies by. We haven't seen one another for probably a month and so to run into him again, was a little random.

I saw him at the start of my night walking down to the coat check. No hug exchanged to greet one another and I was a little out of it. I had just run to the club to ensure I could get in for free. :) Plus, this guy that was with him, I didn't recognize as a friend, and he was making some mean eyes at me. So I figured this was his new boy and I didn't want to prolong the conversation.

Throughout the evening, I saw him dancing with 2 ppl that I didn't recognize. I never went over to say 'hi' or like engage in dance or convo. Cuz well, why would I want to cause for awkward-ness of 'oh hey, yah this is my ex...'

So I'm dancing away the night, having a good time w/ friends, and then all of a sudden around 1:30ish, there's a tap on my back. It's the ex...

He says 'he's out' (which he's never said before) and questions why I'm going out so much nowadays (it's called being off of school), I tell him about my new apartment and he looks sad. One of the reasons we broke up was our distance. So he says 'he's out' again and heads off.

So folks, the questions is, when you see your ex's, what do u do?